Rob + Andee
As adoptive parents, we commit to honor your sacrifice by continuing to put this child's needs above all the other competing needs of the world. We commit to provide love, stability, and protection. Most importantly, we will provide love, not just from the two of us, but from an extended community of family and friends.
We can't begin to know how difficult your decision to place your child for adoption must be. We admire your selfless strength. As adoptive parents, we commit to honor your sacrifice by continuing to put this child's needs above all the other competing needs of the world. We commit to provide love, stability, and protection. Most importantly, we will provide love, not just from the two of us, but from an extended community of family and friends. We have wanted to have a child for many years, but it did not work out. It has been an incredibly painful journey of loss, but through that difficulty we have grown closer, stronger, and more empathetic to the challenges and pain that others endure. Pain and loss, whatever it is caused by, can teach us about ourselves, our capacity to love, forgive, and our capacity to empathize and connect. We recognize that this may be a painful experience for you. You will have a meaningful place in your child's heart that we will respect and nurture as they grow.
We met in 2010 at a work conference. We were there representing our respective departments when Rob found Andee in a quiet corner of the state aquarium. After a few minutes of conversation, we began to realize that we had a lot in common, like similar music tastes, a love of the outdoors, and eating interesting food. We quickly became friends. Even though we lived in different cities, the spark from our first meeting kept us in contact. When travel opportunities presented themselves that would put us in the same city, we would coordinate a lunch or dinner visit that helped us get to know each other better. Fate even provided us with a chance to camp and spend the weekend together when a work event was unexpectedly canceled early in our friendship. Rob invited Andee to a large music festival in June of 2010. It was on this trip that our friendship bloomed into a relationship. It was during this trip, camping and surrounded by the positive energy of the crowd, that we saw the qualities in each other that we knew could lead to a supportive and enduring relationship. We dated long distance for a few months and when Rob was able to transfer and live in the same city as Andee, he jumped at the chance. After months of outdoor adventures, seeing live music, volunteering, appreciating each other's professional work and motivations, and sharing in the love of each other's families, Rob popped the question with a family heirloom of his mother's ring, while out on a vineyard adventure in the Texas Hill Country and Andee eagerly said yes. When announcing the engagement to Rob's friends they asked, "Is the wedding at the island?" That island is a place that fills Rob's most treasured childhood memories. Redfern Island, as it is known, is a property in Canada, that has been in Rob's family since his grandmother and grandfather purchased it 65 years ago as a rustic and remote vacation property. Rob has shared this place with his closest group of friends throughout the years, and most importantly his grandmother Jeanne, whom he spent many summer weeks with at the cabin. Andee had not yet been to Redfern Island, but with Rob talking of it so frequently, she knew it was something special. Through months of careful wedding planning, Andee and Rob invited a crowd of 23, consisting of their immediate families and most cherished friends to enjoy the ceremony on a quiet beach among Canada's wild spaces. Upon arriving to the lake and while enjoying the boat ride to the cabin and the beauty of a new place, Andee's brother leaned in to Andee and said "you deserve this," as he knew his sister's love and appreciation for pristine and beautiful natural resources. We had a celebration in Rob's hometown and another in our current city to celebrate with our greater groups of friends whom the Island could not accommodate.
I was born in New York and am the youngest of three boys. There is an 8-year difference between me and my next brother, which makes me the baby of the family. I grew up in a small town where my parents and many of my friends and extended family still reside. I have a very close friend group from growing up in such a small town. My graduating class was only 95 students. I continue to make an effort to see as many local friends whenever I travel back to my hometown. My parents remain active in their community in retirement. My parents both reflected a "blue collar" work ethic that the Western New York area prides itself upon and instilled within me too. When I was young, I spent a lot of time with my Grandma Jeanne, whom I consider a very strong influence on my life. Grandma Jeanne was a pioneer in her own way, she attended nutrition school in the 1940's and worked as a cook. We spent a lot of time outdoors together and I have fond memories of learning about birds, picking berries, fishing, and her general love of nature. I think of my grandmother often as the inspiration for my career path that shares outdoor sports and hobbies with new users. In school, I was drawn to the sciences, which led me to my career path working in the outdoors. I have a bachelor's degree in Environment and Forest Biology and a master's degree in Environmental Interpretation. I worked my way through college, at times working 3 jobs while carrying the coursework of a full-time of a full-time student. It was especially trying and difficult at times to accomplish all of the tasks laid out for me, but my determination allowed me to still graduate Cum Laude, with a little less debt, and a great group of friends who shared my drive. Now that I live in Texas, people often ask if I miss the snow. I quickly answer that "one week a year during visits is just fine with me."
I grew up in Texas in a traditional, middle-class family. Both my parents were born and raised in our town and I was lucky to grow up surrounded by a community of friends and family. Our city also offers a great arts community, which I became involved in at a young age. I have always had a love for the arts and when I was four years old, I was cast in my first theatrical production. I was active in theater growing up and received a scholarship for Musical Theater. I transferred closer to home and graduated with a bachelor's degree in Radio, TV and Film. While I was working on my undergraduate degree, I joined the Sierra Student Coalition and learned more about environmental issues and decided to pursue a graduate degree focusing on Environmental Science, Sociology, and Public Administration. Environmental justice and helping my community have been a central reason for choosing my career path. Throughout my career, I have been able to work in San Francisco and Hawaii, but I missed my family and made my way back to Texas. I have maintained my passion for the arts by playing guitar and singing. I love going to live performances and have regularly volunteered for music festivals and the local theater. I enjoy volunteering, not only to see great shows, but I also enjoy the friendships that I have formed over the years and the sense of support for the arts. I look forward to instilling a sense of volunteerism and love of the arts in the child we raise.
We have one small orange tabby cat named Cornflake. Thirteen years ago, Andee got her as a kitten from a friend that had barn cats and she has been part of the family since. Like most cats, she is generally aloof and spends a lot of time napping. Once Cornflake warms up to you, she loves company, and finding the cutest spots for naps. Whether tucked into a box, or curled up on a suitcase in the closet, she is never far away from her favorite bag of treats. Cornflake knows too, when her humans need a spot of love. She can feel illness or sadness and provides a warm feeling of love and reassurance by cozying up in bed or on your lap.
We live in a wonderful town. It has economic vibrance as well as available open space and abundant outdoor activities. One of our favorite outdoor activities is kayaking the lake. We also love live music and although we anticipate attending fewer late-night shows when we have a baby at home, we are excited to share our love of music at the multiple kid-friendly music events throughout town. We have a rich music and arts culture that is welcoming and educational for kids and we look forward to sharing in that. We are fortunate to live near a community which includes walking paths, a pond, shopping, and a kid-friendly interactive museum with STEAM (science, technology, engineering, arts, and math) exhibits and programs. Additionally, we have excellent schools that value diversity and innovation. We are proud to live here and look forward to raising a child here.
We have always wanted to have a kid. We love to play outside and cannot imagine a better thing than watching the natural world unfold in our child's eyes. Before we were married, we both agreed we wanted kids. Unfortunately, things did not work out biologically. After several miscarriages and a failed attempt at Invitro Fertilization, we decided that having a biological child wasn't in our future and we turned to hope and the aspiration for an adoption to help expand our family. While we know that adoption is not without pain and struggle, we look forward to our love continuing to carry forward into the family we have long had our hearts set on. We are excited to begin a new chapter of parenthood together and look forward to all the joys, challenges and adventures that a growing family brings with it. A few of our friends have also adopted. We have benefited from their advice on the road to adoption, sought advice from them, and look forward to continuing to nurture this relationship as our family grows.
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us and considering us to take on the most important task of raising this child. We recognize that there will always be a special bond between a biological parent and their child, and we promise to honor that. At the same time, we promise to provide support, guidance, and unconditional love to this child as if they were our own biological child. Love is powerful and the more people that can love and care for a child in this world, the better.
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