Matt + Amy
We whole heartedly believe in open adoption, and feel that the more people who love a child, the better! If you decide to create an adoption plan, and choose us as adoptive parents, we will make sure that your child knows your story and just how much you love them. The last thing that we want to say is that we wish you well as you look through these profiles and as you make this difficult choice. Important decisions are never easy. We know that whatever you decide, it will be the right thing for both you and your baby.
Our names are Amy and Matt. Our greatest hope is that this profile gives you a glimpse into who we are both individually and as a couple. First, we want you to know that we recognize how difficult this time in your life is. We can only imagine how overwhelming this must be and we admire you for the strength it takes to consider this process. A decision like this takes immense courage and requires a love that is genuine and selfless.
Our story started more than 10 years ago and is based on teamwork and supporting each other in every aspect of life. We really enjoy each other's company, and have a lot of fun together. We are very silly and are always making each other laugh! Some of our favorite shared hobbies are hiking in the nearby state park, running races, playing tennis together, and spending time on the water boating or kayaking. We both have great jobs with the federal government that we really enjoy. Amy works as a cost analyst, and Matt works as a technical writer. Some of the best things about working for the government are that we have a lot of paid time off and very flexible work schedules, which provides us a lot of time at home. We look forward to the day when we can use our time off to care for and love a new addition to our family. On days where we are both at work, there is a wonderful child care center located onsite, so we are always only a couple of blocks away.
Our story began 10.5 years ago during a training class at work. Amy was the instructor and Matt was one of the interns in the class. There was an immediate connection. Once the class ended, we remained in contact and developed a friendship. We finally started dating about a year later. It didn't take long for us to realize that we were in love, and our relationship became serious almost immediately. We already had such a strong friendship, and got along incredibly well. Being together was easy, and we could have the best time together just doing simple things, like sitting in rocking chairs on the front porch talking and laughing. We loved each others family and friends, and our lives seemed to blend together without effort. We also shared the same values, and had similar goals for our future. We both valued our relationship (now marriage), family, and close friendships above most other things. We believe that life is empty without those close relationships, and we put in the work required to maintain them. Matt proposed after 3 years of dating, and we were married in October of 2013. We love date nights because it gives us an opportunity to spend hours catching up and checking in with each other. We faced our most difficult challenge when the health of Amy's lungs took a sharp decline and she needed a double lung transplant to survive. Matt spent countless nights sleeping in a chair in Amy's hospital room, and spent every day at home taking care of her during the months of recovery that followed. We have come out the other side closer, stronger, and with even more love and appreciation for one another than before. The level of trust that we have for each other, and the commitment to our marriage makes us the most amazing team, able to get through absolutely anything. Amy is now incredibly healthy, which has opened up a whole new world for us! We are eternally grateful and spend each day appreciating how amazing our world is, and doing everything we can to honor the gift we received from Amy's donor.
Due to my successful lung transplant and great health, our lives are full of new and exciting possibilities, including starting a family. Prior to now, the decline of my lungs demanded the majority of our time and attention. Raising a child wasn't something that we considered doing, as it felt irresponsible given the situation at the time. I have been extremely healthy since surgery, and have a whole new life ahead of me! Our life together is profoundly different. We have time and attention to give to raising a child that we never had before.
We discussed several possibilities for building a family together. While I am capable of carrying a child, we feel that it wouldn't be wise to put that stress on my body when there are many other ways to become parents. We discussed both adoption and using a surrogate. Our decision to pursue adoption came out of our sense of gratitude to my organ donor and how profoundly it changed our life. That gift of life and health is what has allowed us to pursue parenthood, and we want to pay that forward.
We understand that many expectant parents find themselves in situations where they aren't able to care for, or raise, their child in the way that they want to. Their decision to choose adoption is selfless. It is out of love, and a desire to provide their child with the opportunity for a better life; a life that they feel they can't provide.
Amy in Matt’s Words
"Amy is a million things that can't be summed up in a few sentences or paragraphs. There is no limit to her kindness and compassion, and you will never meet a more loyal and dependable friend. Amy is never afraid to try new things and has a diversity of interests that ranges from crocheting to playing video games to hiking in parks and forests. Amy is as intelligent as anyone I have ever met; both emotionally and intellectually. She is a devoted and loving partner, supporting me in anything that I do and encouraging me to be the best version of myself that I can be. Amy's strength, determination, and persistence got her through some of the most severe health struggles a person can experience. She emerged from this experience stronger than ever and continues to thrive in all aspects of her life. I can't wait to see Amy as a mom. The love that she has for her family, her friends, and all that life has to offer will be such an amazing gift to give a child."
Matt in Amy’s Words
"The first thing you should know is that he is a natural caretaker, and was my rock through some of the most difficult health challenges a person can face. I think it comes from his selfless nature, and strong desire to put the needs of his family ahead of his own. Next, you should know that Matt is one of the smartest people that I have ever met! His intelligence is one of the many reasons that I fell in love with him. The perspective he offers is wise and logical, and it often makes me challenge my own thinking. I have complete faith in his ability to make smart, well thought out decisions and trust that our family will always be well taken care of. One of my absolute favorite things about Matt is how kind he is. He treats all people with respect, and has a compassionate heart for anyone suffering or in need of help. He volunteers for the Special Olympics as a coach for various sports and activities. Every single Monday, he is out there coaching local members of our community. His compassion extends beyond people to animals as well. He is the first person to help any animal in need, even if it includes searching the neighborhood at night with a flashlight because he's worried about a loose dog he spotted near the road. The way he cares for our little pup Bailey makes me smile, and fall in love with him more every day. I am genuinely so excited to see Matt as a dad. Everyone in our life is too! We have several close friends who have small children, and they all adore him, even as infants. His ability to hold and calm a fussy baby led to the nickname "The baby whisperer". I think they are drawn to his calming and reassuring nature when they are young, and then his ability to play and have fun as they grow up. He is fondly known as "Uncle Matt" by all of the children in our lives. He is already the most incredible husband, but he is also going to be the absolute best dad as well."
What makes us unique
Perhaps the most important lesson we learned during our journey through organ donation is to remember that there are two sides to any important or life changing decision. New lungs for Amy was an incredibly happy and joyful time for our family because we knew that it was an opportunity for Amy to have a full and happy life. However, this organ donation was only possible because a family made an unimaginably difficult and selfless decision; a decision they will think about forever and will always associate with difficult emotions.
We have promised each other to never lose perspective on what that must have been like for that family, and when we are connected to a expectant parent we will never lose sight of how hard this will be for her, and how she will think about this forever, and how our happiness will cause heartbreak for another. We talk constantly about how we wish we could thank Amy's donor for their life changing gift, and we are so grateful that an open adoption will allow us to show birth parents the life of her child.
We also have a uniquely intimate and unbreakable bond between us, our family, and our close friends. Our transplant journey was something that everyone in our lives played a huge part in. From waiting for the call with bags packed, to sitting with Matt at the hospital all day and into the night during surgery, to cooking meals, taking care of Bailey, and taking up running to support Amy in running races. We had 27 people, run a 5K with us six months post transplant. Those same friends and family are in our lives on a daily basis, and can't wait to be a part of this next journey with us.
We have a dog named Bailey, he is a white and tan Papillion, with giant ears and a tongue that is almost always sticking out! He is happy and energetic and LOVES playing fetch with his ball more than ANYTHING. He sometimes even falls asleep with his ball because he doesn't want to let it out of his sight. He is the most friendly and social little dog! He adores people and children, and loves spending the day in our backyard when we host parties. We think he is the best little dog in the world and he brings us a ton of happiness and love.
Home Sweet Home
We live in a charming white cape cod with a red front door in the suburbs. We love our house! The moment we saw it, we knew it was meant to be ours. It has 3 stories, 4 bedrooms, 2 baths, and a large finished basement, which we can't wait to turn into a playroom. We have a large backyard, with a white picket fence, and plenty of room for our dog Bailey to run and play ball. We love to host backyard BBQs, birthday parties, and game nights on our back deck for friends and family. During football season, you will find us curled up on the couch in our living room, with Bailey snuggled between us. We look forward to family football Sundays all year! Our neighborhood is quiet and safe, and full of families, weekend garage sales, community festivals, and people walking dogs up and down the sidewalks. Our community is well known for its excellent schools, and we live within walking distance to all of them. We are surrounded by parks and play grounds, and both the YMCA and library are just up the street. Matt and I enjoy playing tennis on the nearby courts, or hiking at the local state park. We also enjoy walks with Bailey in the evenings. There is an outdoor shopping plaza with restaurants, movie theatre, ice skating rink (in the winter) and community concerts just a couple of miles away. We feel like we have the best of everything right outside our door!
Our Promise to You
Thank you for taking time to read a bit about us and our story. As we imagine what our future family will look like, we truly hope that you will be a part of it. We realize that you must feel overwhelmed and unsure of what the best choice is for yourself and for your child. Regardless of what you decide, we hope that in some small way, reading our story made it easier. Even if it was just a silly picture that made you smile!
If you choose us to be the adoptive family for your child, we can promise several things: You will always be a mother; we will make sure that your child knows your story, and how much you love them. We will provide them with a warm, happy and stable home. We will teach them to be kind, selfless, and resilient as they go through life. They will have opportunities to grow up and be anyone they want to be; and we will provide encouragement, love, and support throughout all of life's ups and downs. Above all else, if you choose us, we promise that we will love your child unconditionally and with all of our hearts.
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