Jim + Breanna
We are honored to introduce ourselves. We have three children and would like to add one more to our family to complete it. We want to be our true and authentic selves, with hope that we speak straight to your heart. We want you to feel like you know us and our family, in order to feel confident that you are making the right decision during this difficult time.
We are Breanna and Jim. Our prayer for you is that you feel that "This is the family. I know it!" We hope you connect with our love of music, travel, laughter, games, and adventure. We want you to know that this child will be smothered with our love. We promise you they will always be kept safe and education will be a priority. Your child will always be loved in our home.
We are hopeful for an open adoption, if you are comfortable. If that changes over the years, we will ebb and flow with you because you are an important part of our life and this child's life. We are so grateful to you already and want to respect what makes you feel at ease. We are here to answer any questions if you want to get to know us better.
Our Love Story
We got married in May 2016, our girls were four and six at the time. We both felt from the first date that we had finally met "the one." We talked every day and would facetime every night before we went to bed, until we finally got married. When it came time to introduce our girls to each other, we accidently ran into each other at a grocery store and another time at a water park. It helped ease the girls into comfort with each other because they felt like they already met.
We are best friends. We keep each other laughing, but mostly it is Jim making the kids and Breanna laugh. We play a lot of games with each other, mainly cribbage after the kids go to sleep. We are both highly competitive and don't let anyone in the house win; you have to earn the win. Our relationship is built on honesty and we do not keep secrets from each other. We are very close and it's important to us that our children see an example of what a loving, happy marriage should look like.
We both grew up with humble beginnings and now we are both independently successful. We feel like that connects us in a way that keeps us humble and never losing sight of being grateful for the many blessings in our lives. We have more than either of us could have imagined. We often sit in bed at night and talk about what it was like in our childhood and how we are overcome with gratitude for where we are today. After coming out of diffi-cult marriages, neither of us thought we could be this happy in love. We have to pinch ourselves.
We are blessed to have three biological children. Each of us have a beautiful daughter from before our marriage. Before we ever got married, we both expressed how we wanted to grow our family. Shortly after our marriage, we started trying to have more children. After a year of trying, we saw a fertility doctor and with his help got pregnant on our first attempt and that brought us Tucker. After his first birthday, we tried again for over a year with our fertility doctor to do multiple IUI and IVF but we are advised that getting pregnant again was unlikely.
We had been talking about the possibility of adoption before we had Tucker. We mourned after we learned we wouldn't have any more biological children, but we weren't ready to give up. We knew we still had room in our hearts and room in our home for another baby. Both our girls want another little brother or sister and we want Tucker to have someone closer to his age to grow up with too. Plus, there are a lot of cousins being born right now; they can all grow up together.
We talk about and pray for the child you are carrying each and every day and have for a long time. We pray that you choose us to raise that child. Our children are the same way - completely bought in to the plan. They can't wait to meet their baby brother or sister. It is not uncommon to hear our daughters arguing over who is more excited or who is going to teach the baby how to walk, talk, ride a bike, etc. It is fun to talk about with them and somedays it is hard to tell who is more excited, us or them.
I am a mom to three wonderful children. I have always imagined myself with four children since I was a child myself, even though I am an only child. I do have two half-brothers but we were raised in different homes. After my divorce, I was sure my daughter was going to be an only child, too. It was a blessing when I met Jim and he had a daughter about the same age as Bryce. It's been a gift to watch them become sisters and best friends.
My grandparents raised me most of my life, and we lived in a small town. I was raised in a conservative home. We went to church three times a week. I was raised to be a kind, generous, and loving person. My grandparents didn't provide a lot of guidance for how to get into college, how to start a career, or how to pursue something I am passionate about. My grandma had to drop out of school in 7th grade to pick cotton and my grandpa worked his way up through a big company where he eventually retired after 40 years. I always wanted more for myself than small town, simple, country life, but I didn't know how to get there. I was always a straight-A student and driven, but we were poor and the best option for me was to start community college and begin working.
I was lucky to be referred to my current company, where I have been for 14 years. I had no relevant experience and no college degree, but this referral was enough for them to take a chance on me. I am a physician recruiter and I love my job. I was promoted several years ago. I am their first female Vice President in their 30 company history. I am able to work from home, which allows me the flexibility to have lunch at school with the kids, help them with their homework before dinner, and generally see them throughout the day. The nanny provides their general care while I work, but I am still here with them and it's a wonderful blessing. I will be taking the full 12 weeks of maternity leave to spend every second possible with this baby.
I love music and it's a big part of my life. I love all kinds of music and like to have music playing in the background all the time whether cooking, cleaning, playing, or working. My musical taste are very eclectic from Sade, Tool, Avett Brothers, Tom Petty, Bob Marley, Led Zeppelin, Kasey Musgraves, Sarah McLachlan, The Beatles, and much more.
Family is very important to me. I grew up with a lot of cousins in the same town and huge family gatherings. Unfortunately, I have had a lot of loss and that makes me hug those I love even tighter because I know tomorrow is not promised. I don't let anyone go to bed thinking I am upset with them or feeling anything other than my unconditional love.
I am blessed. I get to wake up every morning next to the most beautiful woman in the world who loves me! My family is healthy and we have great jobs. We are members of a great church in a great community with neighbors to match.
I am far from perfect. I became a parent over eight years ago and I still mess this up every day. So long as I love them with everything I have, every single day, I know it will work out.
Although I wasn't raised with parents with the same resources my wife and I have, there has never been a moment when I questioned their love for me. We didn't have a nice home or cars, but I had a family that loved me. I was raised in a small town and my closest friends were my brothers and my cousins. It was a great childhood. My granddad and uncle were the town's doctors. Their influence made me want to be a doctor (spoiler: it didn't happen). After high school, I went to college and earned my degree in political science. While I was there, I met most of my best friends. We still talk daily and are lucky to live close to each other.
During college, I dated a woman who would become my first wife. We were married shortly after we left there. She went to law school and I started my career. We had a child together after I started law school myself. Sadly, she decided while I was in law school and shortly after our daughter was born that she wanted to be with someone else. That was a defining, devastating time for me. With everything I had, I tried to save it; but her mind was made up. I do wish I could go back and tell my past self how great life would be just 8 years later.
Now, I'm an attorney that owns my practice and has become more successful faster than I ever could have hoped. I have a great work-life balance and get to make my own schedule. This includes working from our main home or from the beach house we just bought.
Bryce is our oldest and is 10 years old. She is from Breanna's first marriage. She has a huge heart and is a natural caretaker. She has always been a girly girl. Even as a toddler, she has always enjoyed dressing herself and I still picture her as a 3 year old saying "I'm a fashionista" and dancing around the house in mismatched clothes. She loves music of all kinds including Michael Jackson, Ariana Grande, and the Beatles. She loves to dance and we encourage music and dancing in this house at all times. She plays basketball, volleyball, and is part of a local swim team. She is also a beautiful artist and loves to paint. Every night when we pray, she says the same prayer. Since we began the adoption process, she has been praying for you and for her future brother or sister every night.
Lily is our daughter from Jim's first marriage. She loves animals, gymnastics, soccer, and swimming. She qualified for State in swimming at just 7 years old. She is half Mexican so she is darker than the rest of us, and she's also the smallest. Her laugh is the sweetest sound in the world. We get to hear it often because she loves being tickled so much. She has a lot of friends at school and elsewhere because she is so sweet. She especially loves playing with legos, dinosaurs, and animals. She talks loud and she makes us laugh every single day. There is nothing we would change about her. Because she has a younger brother, she knows pretty well what to expect and is very excited about it. She wants to help teach her newest sibling how to walk and talk. She likes to take advantage of her small size to climb into the crib and play with her little brother right now. I fully expect her to do the same with her new brother or sister.
Tucker is our youngest and turned 2 years old in March of 2020. He is such a happy baby. He is obsessed with trains, Mickey Mouse, Coco, and Toy Story. He is a child that actually loves to play with toys, more than any other child we have ever seen. We joke that he is "safety first" because he likes to be buckled up for anything like the changing table or the grocery cart. He holds on tight when he is being held or when we are dancing and playing. I think he will have interest in music, as he frequently plays with his toy guitar, pushes the piano keys, and he tries to sing along to songs. His vocabulary is advanced and we're pretty sure it's because he is always talking and playing with his big sisters.
Our dog Otis
We have an English bulldog named Otis. He is only a couple of years old. He likes to spend a good portion of his day sleeping. His favorite place to sleep is right next to your feet, on your lap, or in Lily's room. He loves playing in the water including, the sprinkler, the swimming pool, and the ocean. We also have two hamsters that Lily earned as an award for memorizing her 1st and 2nd grade site words.
Our main home has a lot of space and all of our children have and will have their own room. The nursery is downstairs, close to our room, and the big kids have their own rooms upstairs. There is a separate library, plus a movie room where our kids like to spend a lot of time. Outside, we have a pool, yard, trampoline, and the gated driveway has a built in basketball hoop and is large enough for a half-court basketball game.
The great thing about the location of our house is the city park with playground immediately next door and the elementary school is a three-minute walk away.
Our beach house is about 200 feet from the beach and water. It is a new addition to our family, but we hope to spend as much time there as possible. In it, the girls stay in the large upstairs bedroom that has seven twin trundle beds so that friends and cousins can come stay there too. Tucker and the baby have rooms downstairs near us and the nanny.
We love going to our children's sporting events and school activities. During the summer, we often end up at a swim meet where we can set up our canopy outside and make a day out of it. Volleyball, basketball, and soccer are more of our favorite activities.
When we don't have a planned activity, we like to spend our day outside in the pool or jumping on the trampoline. This past spring brought the first camping trip for Jim and the girls and we hope there are many more of those!
We love to travel with the children and to show them the world. Our family trip last year was to Oregon. We take frequent trips to Colorado to see Breanna's brother and niece and all of Jim's immediate family live near Estes Park. Breanna cannot wait to teach them to ski someday soon. We all enjoy the beach and the relaxed pace of life it provides.
Music is huge in our house! It's rare that we don't have something playing on the speakers in our house. We plan to expose our children to all kinds of music and to take them to concerts because we love live music. We took our girls to their first concert last year and it is just the beginning.
Thank you again for considering us. We promise you that your child will grow up knowing they were loved by both you and our family. They will never feel anything less than the most important person in our eyes.
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