Jeremy + Stefanie
Our names are Stefanie and Jeremy and we want to thank you for taking the time to get to know a little bit through the pages of our profile. As we write this letter, we feel so many emotions and cannot begin to imagine the emotions you may feel as well. We have learned that when trying to make an important decision, talking openly about what you are thinking and feeling makes it easier to process and move forward in making the right decision for you. We hope that you have someone in your life that you are able to discuss your thoughts and feelings with openly.
Hello! Welcome to our story.
You have some tough decisions ahead of you and that is not lost on us. We know you want a wonderful home and future for your child, whether that is through you choosing to parent or you making an adoption plan. If you decide that this will be through an adoption plan, and select us as the adoptive parents, we promise to open our home, hearts and family to you, your child and your family(ies). Regardless of the path you chose, we wish you the very best and hope you are able to find peace and comfort in your decision.
Where it all began
We met the beginning of our freshman year of college. We were friends throughout college and after graduating, but didn't start dating until July 2011. For a few years, we had been talking about going to New York to see the "new" Yankee baseball stadium but we had never followed through and made plans. Finally, in 2011 Jeremy made it happen. As we got closer to the day of the game, it became obvious that Derek Jeter might hit his 3,000th hit at the game we had tickets for. What was not obvious to either of us was if this trip was a date or not.
The night of our game, it was pouring rain, but we took the subway to the Yankee stadium anyway. As we arrived at the stadium, we found out the game was postponed, and no make-up day announced. Jeremy quickly went and bought tickets for the game the next day and then we went out to dinner. At dinner, Jeremy worked up the courage and said, "Do you ever wonder what is going on between us?" I said yes and after a brief discussion, we ended up deciding that we should start dating. The next day we went to see the Yankee game and witnessed Derek Jeter make history with his 3,000th hit--as a couple. We immediately began spending most weekends together and quickly knew we would marry, but we just needed time. We dated for a little over a year before Jeremy proposed. Eleven months later, we married overlooking the DC skyline, with our family and friends witnessing our marriage. We have now been married six years and our only regret is that we did not start dating sooner.
Why we want to adopt
We have always wanted to become parents. We tried to become pregnant, and were unsuccessful in conceiving biologically. Although our doctors have not found anything medically preventing us from doing so, we realized that having a child biologically may not be in the cards for us and have accepted that.
We decided that adoption would be the avenue that we wanted to pursue to grow our family. Our extended family and friends know that we have started our adoption journey and they are very excited and supportive of us.
In addition to our five nieces and nephews, we consider many of our friends' children as family and know that we can love a child that had not come to us biologically. For us expanding our family is a natural next step and we can't wait to become parents.
Jeremy Shares: I knew Stefanie for 19 years before we started dating. I also knew her mom and brother most of that time. I always enjoyed being with her, but what came as a pleasant surprise when we started dating, was how much everyone else adored her. When we were out at a restaurant or at a ballgame and we ran into colleagues and friends, they would express how lucky I was to be with her. Of course, I felt the same, but hearing it from others showed me the deep relationships she builds with her friends and colleagues.
Stefanie always puts forth an incredible effort. I know this dedication propelled her to the top of her profession in accounting, and I get to see it in everything she does from researching the places we travel, making a major purchase, or helping a friend or family member make an important decision. Stefanie is a good listener and support system. In times when I need to talk, Stefanie supports me by actively listening. She allows me to express how I am feeling without judging.
My family adores Stefanie. My parents treasure how she welcomes them into our home and makes visiting them in Florida a priority. My brothers cherish the fact that she can play with our nephews and niece and keep them entertained when we visit them or go on vacation together. All in all, it is safe to say that anyone who encounters Stefanie finds a treasure within her!
Stefanie Shares: I met Jeremy for the first time when he was 18 years old and starting college. He was the cute guy from Chicago who was always smiling, was always up for whatever you wanted to do, and just loved life. At 18, I had little appreciation for how important it is to have someone like this in your life. But, fast forward to present day and I can't imagine Jeremy not being a part of my daily life.
Jeremy is very patient and calm. He is also good listener and always helps me to see the other side of the story. When I hear him talking with the teenagers in the youth group he advises, I see how much these boys respect Jeremy. Parents in Jeremy's youth group have jokingly said he is not allowed to stop advising until their youngest kid graduates. They know what a great role model he is for their children.
Jeremy served as a camp counselor during high school and college and also led the counselor in training program for the camp. Recently, someone who Jeremy trained as a counselor at camp reached out to him and was quoting all these things that Jeremy taught him all these years ago like it was yesterday.
When I am with him, a sense of calm comes over me. I know that together we can accomplish anything. Jeremy does all the cooking in our house. He is always trying new recipes and the first question he asks when he sits down is how I liked it. Jeremy wants everyone around him to be happy and will do whatever he can to make this possible. He has a strong sense of family, and although his family does not live near us, we are good about getting on a plane to see them on a regular basis. Jeremy treats my mother as if she is his mother and is always helping her around her house or inviting her over to dinner at ours.
This is our happy place.
We live in a family-centered planned community in the suburbs about 25 miles from DC. The community has the atmosphere of a small town. Our street has only 8 houses on it and we enjoy having grocery stores, restaurants, walking paths, a farmer's market, a basketball court and numerous parks all within easy walking distance of our house. Across the street from our home is a small park with swings, bridges, slides, a teeter tooter and an entrance to a public walking trail. Within walking distance of our house is our community clubhouse, 3 pools, lighted fields for baseball, softball and soccer, and a picnic pavilion. During the summer, many of the children participate in the community's swim team. The team puts a fish on the door of all the kids on the swim team. We enjoy walking around the neighborhood and seeing the homes with children on the swim team.
Our community sponsors many events for residents to participate in to create a feeling of community, such as outdoor movie screenings, pool parties, musical events, a 4th of July community parade hosted by the neighborhood kids, a community dinner and an Oktoberfest with hay rides, games for the kids and food vendors. Halloween is very popular in our community. Families pull out all the stops to decorate their houses and kids come from all over the area to Trick-or-Treat. In December, the community also has a house holiday decorating contest.
The elementary, middle school and high school are all less than 2 miles from our home and the middle school is within walking distance of our home. All 3 schools are rated above average in school quality compared to other schools in the area. The schools are also ethnically diverse which is very important to us!
We promise you…
In Judaism you sign a Ketubah (which means marriage contract) immediately before your actual wedding ceremony. It is framed and displayed on the mantle in our family room for all to see and continually reminds us of the promises we made before our family, friends, rabbi and God when we married. If you choose to pursue an adoption plan with us, we would like to do something similar with you which will also be displayed in our house. Below are some things we think can be a part of this contract, but we would love to work with you on the details.
We promise to love your child unconditionally, and nurture him or her to grow into the best person they can be. We promise to provide a safe home for them to thrive in. We promise to be there for your child no matter what life has in store for them and to instill your child with a sense of right and wrong, love of family, God, and our great country.
We promise we will embrace your child's independence, make education a priority and balance educational achievement with extracurricular activities and hobbies they enjoy.
We want your child to have a happy and joyful childhood filled with family and friends. We promise to respect you and have you be as much a part of your child's life as you want and is healthy for your child. We promise to let you be a part of telling your child their adoption story if you so choose. We realize this is a story the two of you share and you can tell it best. We promise to honor and celebrate it.
Lastly, we promise to work as a team so the child will grow up knowing he or she is loved by all of us. I think we can all agree that no child can be loved too much! We hope to be able to take this journey together.
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